When of the belief we are special or meant to be, it can feel limiting, as in weighty or delusional. Words don’t always hold what’s what. And with it often don’t represent nor give an aligned truth.
Being special isn’t being better than anyone else. Nor is it about being, at any other time or stage in one’s life, better than where you are right now. It isn’t at all a comparison.
Special—is simply—you.
That’s no competition. You are not your negative feelings and limited thoughts which to me are more like traffic light signals, part of a route to navigate within what’s truly you: your Light. That’s your in gear mode, your flow, your always accessible true power including the light through such dark (the dark could refer to a stop and caution in a navigation to your go).
When you feel such Light—for example: joy, love, acceptance, hope, care, peace, enthusiasm, compassion, appreciation, openness, presence—allow it. Opt for it. Lean into it. Listen to what it shares, including how it feels in providing for you when you feel down. And that’s it. How special do you feel then?
It’s from such light you see things clearer, move forward and shine. That way, we too can see you shine. Oh how we need that light, you create.
Sometimes we just need to lift ourselves up to experience ourselves for who we truly are, and then feel our gentle glide onwards. To allow more life in. Such effort in doing so, is in and of itself, another expanse of our joy. Being with others as yourself in this way, is what can give them joy too. Win-win. Grin-grin. Let’s chin-chin to such a union.
Here are three sure and simple ways to align and to realign (again, and again, and again) with feeling special, i.e to feel good about yourself:
Take any of your next moments to kindly acknowledge yourself for your own (special) worth. You can do this: within yourself by feeling love for yourself and by adding thoughts aligned with it; selectively saying such out loud; and why not do what naturally matters most to you. Make the time. And remember to add that additional comfort of expanding your breath when doing so, and when doing ANYTHING of course 😆.
Whenever you look back on an unhappy memory, and catch yourself reliving any negative imprints or adding negative judgments of it all, try to switch to becoming present, add some gratitude for your now, and thank the memory … maybe for a lesson. An acceptance of it. Otherwise adding a negative judgement on top of a memory or association (of yourself or others) only adds more heavy you’ll want to also shrug off later. Your thoughts are powerful. Remember you’re not their slave, you influence them, and can lead them with your Light.
Also, at times, it may help to lean into something you’re feeling that doesn’t feel good, instead of dismissing it. Sit with it and really feel into it. Stay with it with caring curiosity with the aim to discern its origin. It’s surprising what can be uncovered. It might even turn out to be the complete opposite to what was first thought. Such a way may lead to resolution a lot quicker than just ‘letting it go’ without resolve as that tends to resurface. Coming back to feeling good, only comes from allowing Light’s way.
Stretch your kind ways further than you may have previously felt into, to one day if not right now, you may consider yourself your number one fan, your most supportive cheerleader. Such as for being, exploring and doing any of the things that light you up, including your dedication to being kind to yourself (through such thoughts, words and deeds). Doing this, daily and for life, is a foundation of nurture for your heart and all your connections.
Nurture the ways that make you you, while loving and appreciating all those in your life for the same reasons. Support and celebrate each other by always choosing encouragement over disparagement, towards yourself and others.
Namaste.
AUTHOR’S NOTE: If in need of a possible reference for this, maybe consider how: we give our stamp of love in recognising the pureness, the specialness, of someone at their birth, birth reminder (birthdays), and their death, yet what about the messy middle? We’re often caught in a multitude of messes during our lives. Many of such stem from prior to our arrival on earth or are that of a mix of different messes. Life’s varying challenges and roles can make it difficult to maintain being our ‘best-selves’ including rocking our communication and understanding of ourselves and one another. Yet where our heavy judgements and misalignments of ourselves and others stop and where pureness in uniqueness is again recognised, acknowledged and shown value is always in our hands.
''Happy special you always” (which really is just love) is a better fit and is truly needed I think. It doesn’t hold ALL the answers yet it’s the essence of the heart WITHIN all the answers.
The first example of such an approach for me that sprung to mind and warmed my heart in its springing there, was one that spanned the twenty three years I was a support worker for a great many people of varying ages and abilities via a bunch of different organisations. Not needing to know each of them beforehand nor them me, to feel this. It’s just an energy of “You’re love, you’re amazing and you’re as valuable as everything.”
As another food for thought, a general example across all my life: whenever problems have showed up for me, personally or professionally within any role or association, it basically was rooted in someone, be it me and/or others, not coming from this way, meaning, when not feeling aligned with one’s own foundation of ‘special’. The transaction edgy, damaged or lost in translation. The heart of it missing.
When there’s no measure of ‘better than,’ it helps one operate and interact smoothly. You’re a rock. You don’t pollute yours or others’ worth, efforts, value, or input. And with it one’s input aligns freely, feeling full. LOVE. And therefore with it RICHLY felt within. This also helps others to feel into you, especially those who may seem to have learnt to require evidence of such first.
You may never know all the value and nourishment you give others if you don’t firstly value and enjoy your own specialness. Which is simply inner harmony. That is the aim of yoga — inner and outer harmony — and to try to not convolute that, it’s simply the art of living well. It works.
You, special you, are an integral part of life. You are life. So treat yourself as special as can be. You are the world. You are the Universe. You are the stars. You matter as much as everything, always. Lots of love.
